BPDFamily.com reports that Borderline Personality Disorder is three times more prevalent than previously thought and is possibly the most common of the personality disorders.
A recent study by the National Institute of Health projects that BPD affects more individuals and their families than previously believed. See member discussion here:
A sample of findings:
- the prevalence of the disorder is 5.9%;
- that prevalence in men is the same as women;
- BPD was more prevalent among Native American men, younger and separated/divorced
/widowed adults, and lower income and education; - BPD was less prevalent among Hispanic men and women, and Asian women;
- BPD prevalence was greatest among people with bipolar disorder (50%), panic disorder, or drug dependence. Smokers were also more likely to have BPD'
- 24% had comorbidity with another personality disorder. The rates of NPD/BPD and ASPD/BPD were higher among women;
- lower incidence was seen in adults over 44 years of age.
There are many family members who are hurt by their loved one’s disorder. A person who suffers from a personality disorder can often be rigid and exhibits heightened emotions and responses, leaving them highly distressed in their life. This ultimately affects most of the relationships closest to them. BPDFamily.com estimates that 18 million individuals are struggling in their relationships with their husbands and wives, romantic partners present and past, friends, coworkers, their parents, siblings, children, in-laws, etc.
Are you in love with someone with borderline personality disorder? Do you think your mother, child, friend, neighbor or coworker has BPD? Can we help you to untangle the mysteries, dissolve the chaos and reclaim your life? Please leave a comment if any of this sounds like a situation that you are or have been in you may want to visit the BPDfamily support group.
Authors: DreamGirl, Skip
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I have currently been dumped by a borderline personality disordered man...after a 1 yr and 9 month relationship..9 month engagement..he broke up with me via text and later that afternoon posted a picture of himself and a 41 yr old female on facebook. He left me for a 41 yr old.
ReplyDeleteHis mother was invasive parent when he was young..hence the emotional incest and he was also diagnosed with PTSD by the military. He became physically and verbally abusive towards me in the middle of the relationship. Everything I've come to learn and understand about the disorder pinpoints he suffers from borderline disorder. He is only 25 and now has 2 failed engagements on his track record and is now dating a woman only 2 yrs younger than his own mother...whom he just so happens to currently not be on speaking terms with at the moment.
I have not reached out to him since he sent me that text about never contacting him again...that day I felt my heart break into a gazillion pieces. I knew our relationship had major problems but I never thought he'd be the one to break it up so suddenly and leave me for a 41 yr old. Worst part is that in fact there was no closure...so currently I'm still trying to deal with the doubt,pain,confusion,ruminating thoughts,and guilt.
Everything from his constant drinking, excessive lieing, idolization and then hatred of me, threats of suicide, violent past and behavior towards me, emotional incest background, lack of empathy, chronic feeling of emptiness, need to be needed but at the same time extrememly needy himself lead me to believe he infact suffers from borderline personality disorder. I considered contacting him to suggest he get help and treatment...problem is not honest to himself...never has been and probably never will me...hence will never see himself as the one with the problem and will never seek help. I am sure by the the time he is 40 and is on his second divorce or so...he will begin to get it. Sadly by then, he would have caused extreme turmoil and pain to himself and countless others around him.
The numbers here don't surprise me at all. Part of my journey has been to learn more and more about emotional maturity, something that isn't taught to or exhibited in many families. There are no life manuals, per say. The more I learned about my issue, codepenence, and my exs issue, bpd, the more I learned about behavioral/emotional issues in general and I see them more often than I care to. Bpdfamily has been a place to learn communication and coping skills that are invaluable.
ReplyDeleteOnce we know better we can do better.~Oprah
What about babies and infants that have been abused? Do they have these same issues even though they can't remember or were too young to realize what was happening?Can abuse at such early developmental stages destroy their normal development when personalities are being formed??
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